In Defense of Groupies...
Tuesday, February 9, 2010
, Posted by JD at 1:50 PM
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During the lead up to the NFL's Pro Bowl and Super Bowl in Miami, I grew very tired of all the groupie tweets, facebook statuses, and comments of real life friends and other acquaintances. Unfortunately, there is more to come. NBA All Star Weekend is coming up so we can all expect more of this type of commentary. I even expect people to try to be "creative" and combine groupie jokes with Valentines Day cracks. ahahah...ha?
Don't get me wrong, groupie jokes can be funny, but there seems to be an undertone of...of...of something deeper that annoys me a little.
To speculate on what that something is, I'll tell you my thoughts about some of the commentary.
A lot of men who complain about groupies are upset because the groupies don't want them. Groupies are often the life of parties. They came in various desired flavors...dark chocolate honies with curvy bodies and pretty faces. Exotic fair skinned women with voluptuous shapes and fun personalities. Everything from Jessica White types to Kim Kardashian look-alikes, the groupies cover the spectrum.
Unfortunately, during an event like Super Bowl they are simply not checking for regular dudes. In fact, they may NEVER check for regular dudes. And in the scheme of things, men need to get over wanting what they can't have.
Too many women complain about groupies because they see those women going after what they want (however unseemly), and believe that such "thirsty" pursuits of highly desired men are beneath them. Notice I said "pursuit." I have no doubt that if most of the women who complain about groupies were ever "approached" by this cutie here:
they'd happily oblige him his request. But once again, they don't want to be seen 'chasing him.' I guess they've never heard the phrase "A closed mouth doesn't get fed." [Maybe that's just a southern thing?]
The female complainers believe that those women shouldn't be out there "exploiting" themselves just to get close to a man, however rich, handsome, or connected even if they're both single and out to have a good time. All groupie-ism isn't sexual, sometimes women just want to flirt, take pictures, and drink free champagne. Apparently, even that is all too untoward in some people's eyes. Perish the thought.
In other cases, the women who complain didn't have the money, clothes, shape, looks, leave time, or other such necessities to go down to Miami and participate in the fun, and even if they did, they may believe that their personal chances of sleeping with or even chatting up a baller would have been slim to none anyway. (And they're probably right).
I won't even spend more than one line side-eying the batch of females who are THIRSTIER than neglected dogs and try to hide their thirst by throwing shade at party attendees.
The comments that bothered me the most were the ones from people saying that it's a shame for people to go to Miami for the Super Bowl if they don't know anything about football. Pardon? Why? Last year I went to the CIAA basketball tournament and didn't even realize there was basketball being played. I went down to enjoy the parties and to flirt with boys (regular non-balling but nevertheless handsome boys). Besides, nobody says you have to learn Brazilian history before going to Carnivale. Why is the Super Bowl or NBA All Star Weekend held to a different standard? Especially when the game/activity ticket prices are through the roof.
In general there is an obsession with loose women in this society, in particular in the black community, that I just can't wrap my head around. There is also a simultaneous effort to paint successful black men as victims of these coquettish women's feminine wiles even though part of what makes being a baller so appealing is that very same female attention.
All in all, the word "groupie' has become an umbrella term that is used by both men and women as part of a greater tendency to categorize and demoralize a female whenever her sexual behavior "appears" to be something other than what you personally find acceptable. And I must say, the tendency to call any woman who goes to these high profile events a groupie while exonerating from judgement all the men who flock down for the action is really offensive to me.
Love it!
Great!Sometimes I wish I could just see a snapshot of others peoples timeline. *lol*
I celebrate #hoshit and lets face it you don't have to look like an Amber Rose package to partake in #hoshit. And I mean that plenty of women not doing the "groupie" thing looking their noses down at are doing a whole lotta #hoshit for their own reasons. They have some how convinced themselves that because its not money it is somehow different!
I'd like to say I am a FULL supporter of doing #hoshit for whatever you want as long as it always what YOU want to do.
Great Post!
-OG
I have to say that I agree with OG. Own It! Dont try to sugar coat it. If your there to party, party...if you want to sleep with every last person in the room...do it...just don't make up 12 million excuses for it...if you want all of them to want to sleep with you, but have no intentions of sleeping with anyone who makes less than 6 figures, have fun and call me from spain....
i loved it so much i referenced you in my post today after I'd already written it on the same subject...u can cop it here...
http://bit.ly/cAC9Hn+