Why Are Celebrities So Ungrateful?
On Saturday I was forwarded the Global Grind blog post by Gabrielle Union that was marketed as a commentary related to the death of Cincinnati Bengals Wide Receiver Chris Henry. My first inclination was not to read it. Though I’m not a ‘fan’ of Union, I do think she’s very talented, but have never known her to assert any social awareness. But since respectable people such as Hill Harper were saying that her post was “insightful” and thought-provoking I figured I’d read.
Unfortunately, Union’s post was a rant not so much about Henry but about the public’s obsession with celebrity and how it’s keeping us from focusing on our own issues and problems. In the post Union says that the public is trying to “live like Diddy when their homes are being foreclosed” and are focusing on chasing Tiger Wood’s wife around like animals rather than getting counseling for their own issues.
It was a fitting anti-tabloid culture rant for someone who has been heavily profiled in gossip blogs for the past two years as she openly gallivanted around with someone else’s husband. I’m not making a statement as to whether or not Union and Wade have done anything unseemly, I just think the content of her blog post was interesting given the circumstances in which she finds herself.
Union’s post was very insulting to her fans, who, without interest in celebrity culture she’d be just another girl on the block. [Beyond that, the post was also insulting to Henry’s memory. Why market a personal rant as something relative to someone’s tragic death (the cause of which is still not resolved) when nothing thoughtful was said regarding the deceased or the circumstances surrounding his death.]
That same day that I read and disapproved of Union’s post, the news about Brittany Murphy’s death hit the web. Comedian Lil Duval and Wendy William’s side-kick Charlamagne took to twitter to inform their followers that they are too obsessed with celebrities and shouldn’t be discussing the death of an entertainer because there are “other” more important things going on.
I can’t help but find this to be strange and ill-timed commentary coming from two men who are making a living in the entertainment business. Once again, without interest in celebrities they would be unable to support themselves or their families.
Also, Brittany Murphy's death, regardless of her fame and talent, qualifies for thoughtful discussion. Like many young women she struggled with life’s challenges: depression, drugs, anorexia, and possibly falling in love with a destructive personality. Her life mirrors far too many women's, and it’s a shame that two people would use the forum they’ve been given on a social network to lambaste people for wanting to express condolences for the loss of the life of someone with whom, if nothing else, we share our humanity.
It almost seems as though the lower level the celebrity is the more ungrateful they are for the attention they or others receive. C and D list black celebrities continue to complain about their mentions on YBF and Crunktastical even though pre-2005 (when those blogs started) our favorite has-been stars weren’t being sought out or kept up with. Now, they receive regular coverage and some of them have re-emerged in part due to the coverage provided by the black blogosphere. In fact, the black blogosphere and gossip rags can be credited with taking many niche black celebrities into the mainstream.
I won’t deny that the some of the attention the tabloids and blogs give certain A list celebrities has got to be annoying, and some of the gossip is hateful and mean-spirited. But it’s hard to feel sorry for someone like Kanye West, who has taken to his blog several times to complain about the attention he receives) when that is the lifestyle that they've actively sought knowing full well the implications.
Celebrities who like privacy live life lowkey like Beyonce or Johnny Depp, they don't parade around at every single industry party or go out of their way to flaunt their lifestyles.
And let’s not pretend, as soon as the cameras stop following celebrities, they have their publicists arrange for cameras to show up so that ‘candids’ can be taken and distributed. And publicists also start rumors about who their clients are sleeping with to put their names back in the news. All so the celeb can take to a blog post and pretend like the attention is “all too much” *dramatic sigh*
Furthermore, it’s silly to imply that people can’t multi-task their life priorities. There’s no reason to think that you can’t get an inappropriate and slightly insensitive kick and giggle out of the Tiger Woods debacle while also staying abreast of the catastrophic collapse of the healthcare legislation originally proposed by the President.
In other words, you can both mourn Michael Jackson’s passing and realize that non-famous people die too. You can also read about the latest celeb’s battle with depression and also seek counseling for your own issues. In fact, you may actually become more likely to do so.
All I have to say to these ‘celebrities’ who are so tired of people reading and talking about ‘celebrities’ is this: If you want to deliver a big EFF YOU!! to the public, that’s fine, but don’t be surprised if we start to remember.

I agree with several points that you've made. It is as if many of these artist/celebrities care more about "being famous" than their art/work. I really respect celebs like Johnny Depp because he could really care less about the celeb lifestyle.
I also wasn't interested in reading Gabrielle Union's blog post. I finally did and my initial thought "What the Hell does what she's saying have to do with Chris Henry's death"? The answer, Not a Damn Thing! What was more appalling to me were all the well known celebs who were retweeting it as 'prophecy'. Her blog seems like she's fed up with the celeb lifestyle that "she chose". Mind you Ms. Union with all your skeletons that are not even in the closet, the public is what keeps you where you are. No matter how good an actress you are without the support of the 'public' that you put down so well, you would be no where. You need to be a hell of a lot more grateful.
THANK YOU FOR THIS!!!
Such a well put together response to that monstrosity that was Gabrielle Union's ill-timed celbrity rant!
That woman made herself so ignorant to every day life and extremely inarticulate.
I find it sad that other celebrities are raving this as some sort of literary brilliancy, however I have my own gripes with that little package of corniness that is Hill Harper
I always did find it extremely offensive for people to condemn mourning the loss of celebrities, just because we didnt know them personally doesnt mean that their death should be of no concern to us, at the end of the day the loss of a life is always tragic.
Bonita I have mixed feelings about Hill...on the one hand I like that he cares...on the other hand his books seem to reach a mostly bourgie audience that doesn't even need the message. I'd love to hear your issue with him?
Fabulous Do Gooder, exactly! I think there are certain celebs who'd be just fine if fame went away...others would be planting stories on the blogs to get back in the public eye.
Lexi Union's blog did sound really fed up. Which is weird because all her publicity is coming from her private life...maybe she has some projectso out of which I'm not aware?
"Furthermore, it’s silly to imply that people can’t multi-task their life priorities. There’s no reason to think that you can’t get an inappropriate and slightly insensitive kick and giggle out of the Tiger Woods debacle while also staying abreast of the catastrophic collapse of the healthcare legislation originally proposed by the President."
THANK. YOU. I don't understand why it seems to be so universally accepted that if someone mentions something going on in pop culture, it must also be true that they know nothing about anything else. Thoughts about Suri Cruise's latest shoe choice and those about California's water crisis are not mutually exclusive, and I cannot figure out why anyone would assume that they are.
i yearn for the days when music companies and hollywood studios had publicists whose job it was to cultivate and protect the artists/actors from themselves. now, it seems as though their jobs are to aid in the destruction of the stars for the sake of $ and more publicity. the studios and their minions no longer work to protect the artists/actors nor their art, but rather to protect this fragile bubble of the fast life they're all living....
You just articulated everything I think when I hear these celebrities have hissy-fits and complain about how "obsessed" people are with them and their lives. I so appreciated the way you coherently displayed all your thoughts and GET OUTTA MY HEAD!
*starts slow clap*