Hi all...thanks so much for reading my blog over the past year. I stopped posting thinking I wouldn't have time for a personal blog. But my thoughts really need a place, so I've moved this blog here. << click I'm waiting for my actual domain to move. But just so you know, the new blog is called "Live Is The Event."
If I can ever figure out how the hell I purchased this domain I will have it redirect. lol
I mentioned casually that I was planning to shut down HappyAboutThis and got all sorts of hate mail and hate tweets. I was so flattered. I haven't even been blogging a year so it's nice to know that people enjoy my writing.
They say that a year is a turning point in a blog, in fact, Necole Bitchie kindly told me that as her little gem of advice to someone who was just starting out. I bought the domain for HaT in October of last year and I think that in the last two months I was finding a voice and a stride.
Unfortunately, I have another blog called MediaSTRUT where I analyze how the media treats people and issues. I think I did a lot of that on HaT by default because that's my area of expertise. Though HaT is supposed to be a personal blog. I'm not even sure what that means anymore. And I don't know why someone like me who hates talking about herself would endeavor to start a personal damn blog. WHOOPS.
So...what I'm going to do is keep HaT alive and well until her anniversary comes and then I'll make a decision about whether to shut the blog down and do guests posts when I have something I can't put on media strut (such as the post on "Why You should Encourage Your Little Girl to Play Sports" post I did on The Beautiful Struggler, or whether to keep this blog open even though it won't be consistent.
Hmmm...I have to say I really love my very small group of readers and commenters. It's safe over here. Not so much on other blogs. *shudders*
Feel free to weigh in.
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- Date who you want as long as it's not a fetish
- Date who you want as long as you don't put down black women
- It's unnatural for people to have a preference for people who don't look like them, it's evidence of self-hate
- Black men put women of other races on a pedestal
- It hurts to have the men you desire (meaning black men in general) believe that you are somehow beneath them and other women are a prize
- Some black men think black women are good enough to make babies with but not good enough to marry [Note: All 3 mothers of Chad's children are black. Yes I said all THREE.]
I was trying to watch some Prince videos on you tube which is basically impossible because he doesn't allow his music to appear on you tube...I ran across this AWESOME interview he did with Tavis Smiley. This is the best segment...I don't want to give it way. But I'd love to hear people's thoughts.
Shameless plug: My honey Gabi, the lovely lady behind the blog Young, Fat and Fabulous, is one of 20 finalists to be MTV's very first TJ (Twitter DJ). She's a great girl and she's dying to move to NY so she can hit the big time--which I know she will. The winner will move to NY and make $100K! You can help Gabi by following her on twitter as there will be a series of challenges she has to do and she will need help!
Let's meditate on the title of this post....
I don't even know what to say. Maybe I need another day to write about the BET awards. Of course then, no one will care. In fact, people may barely care now. So let me make this short.
The actual show began with Kanye West performing his new song "Power." I wanted to like the performance but it actually kinda bored me a little. I stopped watching and I didn't even realize that I had.
Alicia Keys performed a medley of her hits. There was some mention of her being artist of the decade...or wowing folks? Well... I think Alicia Keys is talented. However, over the years it's become clear that her vocals are strained and forced and she's not as good a piano player as originally touted. Her performance was "okay."
Diddy and Dirty Money also performed. The smoke effects were OVERDONE you could barely see anyone. Still, he had a great set. He started out with his verse from "O let's do it" remix. Now Waka Flocka is my future baby's daddy so I hoped he would come out. BUT Rick Rozay and Nicki Minaj did make it out for "Hello Goodmorning" and I can't deny that song KNOCKS. Unfortunately, Nicki's ODB impression on that song is a fail. I can't understand her. I love Nicki so I was happy to see her regardless.
Two pleasant surprises of the night: El Debarge sang a medly of Debarge hits. He sounded great and actually went twice (which was kinda weird). Also weird was the fact that they didn't introduce him. The second surprise was Tyrese's tribute to Teddy Pendergrass. He wounded AWESOME.
The fail of the night goes to Trey Songz. Don't get me wrong, I think Trey is talented. He has a voice that you sort of either love or hate. But toward the end of his "performance," he launched in to Purple Rain, and sounded horrible from the first note. He then went on to
|Trey...Prince was NOT pleased.|
Chris gave an awesome performance until the end when he was supposed to sing "Man in the Mirror." All the pain of the past year and the weight of being able to honor one of his heroes seem to catch up to him and he broke down crying and never recovered. Lots of people said they didn't believe the tears were genuine. Needless to say, I disagree. Chris was wrong for beating Rihanna down; however, he's very young and clearly needs counseling. Hard to hate Chris Brown and celebrate James Brown and Marvin Gaye and all the other myriad woman beaters who have entertained us over the years.
The disappointment of the night award goes to my girlcrush Nicki Minaj. I believe she performed 3 or 4 times. Each time, she lip synched. That is a RIDICULOUS thing for a rapper to do and simply unacceptable. I don't know whose idea it was but she needs to fire them and use her own brain. On what planet is it okay for a new artist who's not a dancer to give effort the finger like that? She lost major points with me. I still think she's talented, but I can love someone and be honest about their flaws at the same time (unlike a lot of people).
Speaking of people that people don't like. Drake. Drake. Drake. Drake never performs well so I used his time on stage to pet my dog and grab a beer. How did he do?
Finally, the Prince tribute.
Rumor has it that Prince hand-picked the people who honored him. He looked pleased (or as pleased as Prince can look) during the performances. However, I must admit, the tribute did NOTHING for me personally. Janelle Monae sang "Let's Go Crazy." She's young and apparently didn't understand the song was about loving and living life to the fullest. Not about smoking crack and having a nervous breakdown, which is exactly what she looked like she'd been doing.
She ran across the stage like her ass was on fire. Nevertheless, the girl's got moves and she sounded great. But that was a Janelle Monae performance, nothing about it said "Prince."
Esperanza Spaulding, who is very talented and has never really had a mainstream moment, sang "If I was your girlfriend." She.bored.me.to.tears. And NOTHING about her performance was sexy. Like Monae she channeled HERSELF not Prince.
Alicia Keys was Alicia Keys. Girl bye.
Patti Labelle was the last to sing for Prince and she did Purple Rain. Now, we all love Miss Patti. But I must say, she is the ONLY one that could get way with the howling she launched into. Prince was near tears and seemed to love every moment though. Hard to criticize Patti, her voice is amazing.
Of course, twitter always makes awards shows more fun. Although, last night I'm not sure if that was true. One comment I made last night is that I think that people hate current artists because they THINK they should, not because they actually do. I saw a lot of tweets about how this generation has no talent. Mind you, this was from people who are my age. Same age as TI, Alicia Keys etc. I think there was a lot of talent on the stage at the BET awards and it was odd to see people tweeting as though the show was filled with hacks.
No matter what musical genre you're into, you're not going to like every act. Sometimes music is just about entertainment and nothing more. It's like people go to the club and they're all like "that's my song, that's my shit" but when they're watching the BET awards it's all "These coons. This is so embarrassing." I think a lot of people are VERY confused. I've blogged last year about how there's always been different types of music, some serious, some silly, some sexual, some intellectual. There's room for all. And nostalgia gets in the way of comparing today's artists with yesterday's.
Anyway, I'm sure I left some stuff out, but hey, that's what the comment section is for right?
Just in case you've been hiding under one of Rick
Yesterday on twitter I started a discussion about a trend I’m noticing among young black men and women. I was too lazy to blog it at the time, but then the replies got OUT OF CONTROL. I simply could not respond to them all. So people suggested I blog about it anyway to give people an opportunity to comment. Therefore if this post gets no comments, I will be throwing MASSIVE AMOUNTS OF SHADE. And when I throw shade I break windows (and get all up in your mental).